Alex's Answer

Hi there and welcome to Ask Alex. Thanks for sharing what’s on your mind today. 

You asked what you should do if your girlfriend hates your best friend.  That sounds like a delicate and tough situation to be in and you’ve taken a great step in reaching out to us about it. These are two very important people in your life and it’s understandable that you’d want both of them to get along.  

Often, the best place to start is to talk it out. Have you spoken to your girlfriend and explored the reasons why they feel this way towards your friend? This might help you understand where they’re coming from. If you feel it’s something you can work through, it might be a good idea for the three of you to meet up and have a chat about what’s going on for each of you. Keep in mind that you can have a lot in common with your girlfriend and friend but that doesn’t necessarily mean they will have a lot of common ground themselves. If there is something you think they would have a shared interest in, it could be worth exploring that as it might change how they feel about one another. 

Talking to a trusted adult about what’s going on can also help. If you could speak to a parent, grandparent, teacher, neighbour – whoever you have a good relationship with – you may find that they went through similar difficulties when they were younger. This person could be a good source of support; you could turn to them when in need.    

If you’re not ready to talk to someone in your daily life just yet, you can always reach out to Childline for a chat. You can get in touch with us via our chat service at www.childline.ie, or even give us a call on 1800 66 66 66. One of the things you can do when you contact us is practice what you would say to your girlfriend or best friend. When we need to have a difficult conversation, saying it out loud to someone else first can make it less daunting. Remember, the team at Childline are here to listen to you. We will never judge you or tell you what to do.   

We’re here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week so reach out whenever you need to talk. We’d love to hear from you. 

Take care, 

Alex