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My friend told me they don't want to live anymore

Your Question

what should i do if i my friend told me they didn’t want to life anymore but you don’t know what to do because you keep making yourself thing they don’t wanna do it but what happens if they do. and i feel like i’m drifted away for my friend because the taught of what she wants to do is scarying me 


Hi there and welcome to Ask Alex. 

Thanks for getting in touch, it sounds like you are going through a tough time at the moment. 

You are asking what to do if your friend tells you that they don’t want to live anymore. It can be a really difficult thing to hear, if your friend tells you something like this and it can often cause us to feel overwhelmed too.   

There are organisations that provide support for people who have thoughts of self-harm and/or suicide.  Pieta House ( offers free crisis support by phone 1800 247 247 or text – Text HELP to 51444, or the Samaritans ( who offer support by phone or webchat.  You could give these details to your friend and maybe support them while they make contact. 

It is also important that you speak to an adult you trust, who can support you through this journey. This could be a family member, teacher, coach or youth worker. You have the right to get support and guidance, to look after your own wellbeing. You may need to ask an adult who will be able to help your friend access the right supports to keep them safe.  Again, maybe you could be with your friend while they speak to this adult that they trust. 

You can always reach out to us here at Childline if you’d like to talk a bit more about this first.  You can contact us on 1800 66 66 66 or on webchat (  We offer a free confidential and non-judgemental listening service and would love to support you through this. Childline is open 24 hours a day, every day. You never have to be alone. 

Take care, we hope to hear from you soon. 


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