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My family puts too much pressure on me.

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My family puts too much pressure on me. Pushes me into uncomfortable situations where I feel too anxious and my parents get mad at me and screams at me for the smallest things because they are mad at my troubled sister and my anxiety is crippling me right now. What should I do 


Hi there, welcome to Ask Pat and thank you for your question.  

It sounds like right now you are feeling that there is pressure put on you by your family. Pressure can impact us in various ways and come from many sources. Knowing what causes us to feel pressured is often helpful. 

Regardless of who we have in our lives, no one has the right to push us into uncomfortable situations. You say that these situations leave you feeling too anxious. We understand that anxiety can feel different for everyone and for some it can be very overwhelming at times. You have the right to be happy and to get help with managing these feelings. When we have feelings like anxiety, it is so important that we are kind to ourselves and our bodies. Do you have anything you do to relieve your anxiety, such as reading a book or going for a walk? There are many things that can help you to manage your feelings of anxiety, but it’s important to talk about your feelings and the thoughts you have. Talking about what’s troubling you can have an impact on how you are feeling and doing so can help you see things differently sometimes. Maybe you have a trusted adult in your life that you could talk to or a good friend.  

There are also organisations that you can contact for help: you could call Childline on 1800 666 666, you might prefer our one-to-one messaging service on, or you can text us on 50101. Our services are free and confidential, and we’d love to chat about what is going on for you at the moment. Some websites that might be useful to you are: and 

We think you’ve been very brave telling us about how you’re feeling as we know that this isn’t always easy. 

Take care, 



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