Alex's Answer
My family never notices the help I give around the house, what do I do?
Your Question
i feel like nobody in my family even realised i’m here anymore, i babysit,i clean, i cook for them and i never even got an “i’m proud of you”, i try help them whenever they are upset but i get pushed away and i feel like my siblings get more praised than me, what do i do?
Answer
Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Alex.
Thank you for contacting us. We understand that it’s not always easy to share how we’re feeling, or what’s going on for us, but we also know how important it is to talk about it.
It sounds like that there’s a lot going on for you at home. From what you have said it sounds like you feel that you aren’t being seen or heard and that all the work you do at home isn’t recognised. It seems like you are a fantastic support around the house but no one acknowledges this in any way.
Has this been something that has been going on for sometime for you? Each young person has the right to be recognized and appreciated for the work they do. It is so important that even when others don’t recognize our importance, we recognize this within ourselves, because we are all equally important and so are our feelings.
Do you have any trusted adult in your life that you could talk to about this? As we said, your thoughts and feelings are so important and it is vital that you have someone you can turn to.
Remember, you are not alone in this; Childline are always here to listen when you need to talk about whatever is on your mind. If you ever feel like chatting to us, you are very welcome to call anytime on 1800 66 66 66 or you can also contact us online, by visiting www.childline.ie. All of our services are free, available 24 hours a day and are confidential and non-judgmental.
Hopefully, this reply will be helpful to you and please know you’re welcome to contact us again if you need to talk.
Take care,
Alex.