Alex's Answer

Hi there, 

Thank you for getting in touch with your question at Ask Alex here today. 

You’re wondering what to do, as your dad never talks to you, and it drives you crazy. Sounds like you would like to talk with your dad and spend more time with him, would that be right? It’s understandable that you would want your dad to talk to you, and that it would be frustrating when that doesn’t happen. 

Have you ever talked to your dad about how you’re feeling? It can sometimes be difficult sharing how we’re feeling with our family, but it sounds as though this is something you would like to change. Maybe you could think about when a good time might be to speak with your dad, a time when you are both calm and relaxed, and when you are both open to listening to each other. Or are there any activities the two of you might like to do together? It could be as simple as going for a walk together and getting the opportunity to talk about how you’re feeling and spend some time together. 

If you aren’t ready to speak to your dad right now, that’s okay. Is there anyone else in your family that you would be comfortable talking to about this, and sharing your thoughts and frustrations? Maybe they would be able to provide some extra support for you in this situation and you could consider what you would like to do next. 

We are also always here for you at Childline, if you wanted to talk some more about what’s going on with your dad, or even if you wanted to practise what you wanted to say to him. It’s a safe space for you to talk without judgement, and there will always be someone there to listen 24/7, either through our Live Chat on www.childline.ie or on the phone on 1800 66 66 66. 

Thank you for contacting us and sharing what is going on for you right now. 

Take care, 

Alex