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My dad keeps grabbing/ touching my butt, sometimes he touches my waist

Your Question

Hi pat, my dad keeps grabbing/touching my buttsometimes he touches my waist it makes me very uncomfortable and upset and I have nobody to talk about it too what should I do? 

Answer

Welcome to Ask Pat, thanks for getting in touch.  

It takes a lot of strength to reach out and ask for support. You say in your question your dad is touching your butt and waist and you have nobody to talk to about it.  

It’s understandable that you are feeling upset and uncomfortable when your dad touches you. Nobody has the right to touch your body without your consent, this is sexual abuse. It is a parent’s job to protect their child from harm and you have the right to feel safe at home.  

It’s important to share what is happening to you with a trusted adult such as a grandparent, aunt/uncle, teacher, coach or anybody you feel comfortable with, if you feel you have nobody to talk to there are supports you can reach out to that will listen and can help.  

Túsla is the child and family agency in Ireland, they help young people and ensure they have the support they need. Túsla has offices all over Ireland and its social workers are there to make sure young people in Ireland are safe. You can find the contact information for the Túsla office closest to you at the following link.  

https://www.tusla.ie/get-in-touch/duty-social-work-teams/  

Another service you can access is the Dublin Rape Crisis Center, this service covers all of Ireland and can provide support for those that have been touched inappropriately. The services offered can be found at this link: 

https://www.drcc.ie/services/  

You do not have to go through this alone, Childline is also here for you, and we would really love to listen. The services are free and available 24 hours a day. You can contact us through our telephone service on 

1800 66 66 66, through our text service on 50101, or by webchat through our website www.childline.ie 

There are also articles on the Childline website you may find helpful.  

https://www.childline.ie/what-is-abuse/ 

https://www.childline.ie/getting-help/ 

You are very brave in taking this first step in reaching out.  

Take care of yourself,  

Pat 

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