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My dad hits me

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So my dad hits me whenever I do the smallest mistakes like forget something or say something in front of his friends like “can I stay in my grandmas house”. He also pulls my hair and pushes me around like I’m an animal or some sort, he also cusses at me a ton in Persian. He closes the windows before he hits me because he doesn’t want anyone to know. He also takes a video of me sometimes while he hits me and sends it to my grandma to make her sad and thinks hitting me is like a game.

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Hi there, 

Thank you so much for getting intouch with Ask Alex about what is going on for you. You have been so brave in reaching out and opening up about what is happening for you at home. 

You have said that your dad hits you and that he cusses at you. We would be very concerned to hear this. No one has the right to hurt you, physically or emotionally. This is a form of abuse and is illegal in Ireland. In Ireland, Túsla, The Child and Family Agency, is there to make sure all young people live in a safe environment. Social workers at Túsla can provide support, and you may need the help of a trusted adult to access their services.

It is important that you speak to somebody you trust who can help you through your home experiences. Do you have another family member you feel comfortable talking to, or maybe a teacher? It is the responsibility of the adults in your life to make sure that you are living in a safe home, without the fear of violence and abuse. This article may be helpful for you in understanding what abuse is www.childline.ie/what-is-abuse/.

You are never alone in this. There are people who care about you and want to help. Childline is here for you 24/7. You can talk to someone who will listen and support you without judgment. Whether you need someone to talk to or want to explore your options, Childline is just a call or click away. You deserve to feel safe and loved, and there are people who can help you make that happen. You can phone us for free on 1800 66 66 66 or have a web chat with us through Messenger at Childline.ie, just click the purple chat circle). The team is here 24-hours a day, every day, waiting to support you.
 
Take care of yourself, we hope to hear from you again soon,
Alex

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