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My Dad goes out drinking

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Hi Alex, My Dad has been going out with his friends every second night drinking and i just wish he wanted to spend more time with me, we also don’t have alot of money lately and i cant afford school books or school shoes and im angry that he can afford to drink when my shoes are falling apart

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Hi there, thanks for reaching out to us today,
 
Team Ask Alex are here to listen and help. It sounds like you’re going through a tough time, and we’re really sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way. It’s completely understandable to want more time and support from your dad, especially when you’re facing financial difficulties.
 
It can be really frustrating when you see your dad going out with his friends so often, while you’re struggling with basic needs like school books and shoes. It’s natural to want more attention and care from your parents. It is their responsibility to look after and care for you.
 
In times like these, it’s important to talk to a trusted adult, perhaps a teacher, school counsellor, or another family member who can offer support. If you ever feel unsafe at home (in Ireland) you can call the Gardaí at 999 or 112.
 
You can also reach out to Túsla, the Child and Family Agency, for help and advice. They may be able to offer guidance around your family and financial situations. You can find out more information about their services here www.tusla.ie/services/family-community-support/family-support/. You may need the support of an adult when contacting them. Here is an article on the Childline website which you may find useful www.childline.ie/how-to-manage-family-relationships/.
 
Remember, you don’t have to go through this alone. If you ever feel like you can’t talk to someone you know just yet, you can always call the Childline Team at 1800 66 66 66, or chat with them on www.Childline.ie, (click on the orange Live Chat icon on the righthand side of the screen). The service is non-judgmental, confidential, and available 24/7. You’re never alone, and there are people here to support you and explore your options with you. We’re here for you, and we care about your well-being.
 
Look after yourself, please feel free to contact us again soon,
Alex

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