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My cousin is good at everything

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Hey so I’m jealous of my cousin. She can sing, she can play keyboard(I try as well but cant. Sometimes she teaches me but still she learned in a week and she can listen to a song and play it immediately. So she also sings at church even though I’ve dreamed of it since before she even went there. And apparently you have to be baptized for that. And I’m not! Its so annoying its like the world is built for her but not me. I can’t roller skate as well ’cause she’s a figure skater. And since I go to children’s church I wouldn’t be able to sing the song at the end.. Its so annoying the world is against me bruh. I hate it. Also my voice just won’t develop. My chest has, my period has, hair has, EVERYTHING BUT MY VOICE! I hate it..


Hey there,

First off, let us just say, it’s totally understandable to feel the way you do. It sounds like you’re going through a lot right now, and it’s completely valid to feel frustrated and even a bit envious of your cousin’s talents and opportunities. It can be really tough when it seems like someone else effortlessly excels in areas where we struggle or long to succeed.

But hey, remember, you’re not alone in this. We all have our own unique journey, and it’s okay if things take a bit longer for us to achieve or if we face different obstacles along the way. Your cousin’s abilities don’t diminish your own worth or potential. You have your own set of talents and strengths waiting to be discovered and nurtured.

It’s also important to recognise that everyone’s growth and development happen at different paces. Just because your voice hasn’t fully developed yet doesn’t mean it won’t eventually. Be patient with yourself and continue to explore your passion for music and singing. Maybe consider looking out for local vocal lessons or joining a choir where you can receive guidance and support in growing your skills.

As for feeling excluded from certain opportunities like singing at church due to not being baptised or attending children’s church, know that there are still ways for you to pursue your dreams. Perhaps you could talk to someone at your church about alternative ways to get involved or letting them know your interest in participating in musical activities.

Remember, you have a whole community here to support you and help you get through these challenges. We’re here to listen, offer support, and help you explore your options. Our phone service is open 24-hours a day, every day at 1800 66 66 66 (a free phone number) or you an have an instant chat with us through Live Chat at

Keep believing in yourself and your abilities, and don’t hesitate to reach out whenever you need a listening ear or a shoulder to lean on. You’ve got this!



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