Alex's Answer

Hi there, thank you for contacting Ask Alex.

 

We know it can be hard to open up about what is going on in our lives, and we appreciate you speaking with us.

 

You spoke of your two brothers who have moved out, that you’re extremely sick and tired of living in a house with just your mum and dad. That it has been so toxic and you’re actually afraid of them.

 

You mentioned the difficulties of only living with your parents. Also, you mentioned the changes that you faced in your life with the move of your brothers and being the sole child at home now. Changes can be hard, and dealing with family members sometimes requires more patience than results. It seems that you might have shared the experience with your brothers before, but that is no longer possible. Therefore, it is important to recognize what changes you are looking for in your home life, as well as what kind of relationship you have with your family. There are a few articles that speak on how to live with your parents as a young person: spunout.ie/sex-relationships/relationships/get-along-with-parents. Likewise, this article speaks about how to get your parent to treat you as an adult, (depending on how old you are): spunout.ie/sex-relationships/relationships/how-to-parents-to-treat-you-adult.

 

You also mentioned how sick and tired you are, and how toxic it is, and how you’re so scared of them. If things are getting really bad for you mentally, emotionally, and more, you do have the right to a safe place to lay your head down. If you feel you are in any danger at home, you can contact the Gardaí for free at 999 or 112. However, if that is not the case, talking can really help, and this can include talking to a trusted adult who knows your family, maybe your brothers and closest friends, and exchanging perspectives with the people who care about your welfare. Likewise, you can access more information on managing family members on our Childline website: www.childline.ie/how-to-manage-family-relationships/. Hopefully, you’ll find a lot of useful information among these.

 

Maybe it may help to speak with strangers, and Childline is the top safest place to speak to. Because we have a team here at Childline who are prepared to listen to you. We will not judge you or tell you what to do; we will go through options that are available to you. Whenever you are ready to express your ideas and feelings, we are there for you. We are accessible every day of the week, round-the-clock. You can reach us over the phone at 1800 66 66 66 or online at www.childline.ie/ (just click the orange Live Chat tab to start a chat).

 

Thanks again for reaching out, and remember, we are always here to listen.

 

Alex