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My brother is so mean

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My brother is being very mean and he is very sneaky and makes it look like I am the problem and my parents believe him what should I do

Answer

Hi there, 

Welcome to ask Alex. Thank you for your question and well done for looking for support.  

Firstly, we are sorry to hear that your bother is not treating you well. In addition to him being mean and sneaky, you feel he is not taking responsibility for his behaviour and is instead trying to assign blame to you. You also mentioned that you think that your parents are believing him and not you. That sounds like it could feel quite isolating, as you are not being heard and believed.  

Nobody has the right to treat you badly and tell lies about you. You have the right to get support with this and to get your voice heard. Lots of brothers and sisters argue, but sometimes this can turn into bullying which is not acceptable. You can learn about sibling bullying here:  www.childline.ie/how-to-deal-with-a-brother-or-sister-who-bullies-you/

Often when people are being treated badly they can begin to feel very negative about themselves and think they are at fault. It is important to remember that when someone is being mean to you, it is not your fault, and you have the right to get support. 

We wonder is there a way to help you get your parents to listen? You mentioned that they believe him, so perhaps you have spoken to them already. If you feel like they are not hearing you, you have the right to get support from another trusted adult like a teacher or another family member. You might also find it beneficial to write everything down in a letter and it give it to your parents.  

We really hope things at home improve for you.  Please remember that you can also call us here in  Childline by phoning us on 1800 66 66 66,  or you can reach out to us through Live Chat at www.Childline.ie . Childline is a free service and it is a really safe space to talk. It is a non judgemental service, and we are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.   

Take care of yourself, and know that you do not have to go through tis on your own, 

Alex 

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