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My boyfriend slapped me

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 Hi Alex! Yesterday night I made my boyfriend mad because I said something stupid about how much I love my older brother and he slapped me. It was the first time but he grabbed my neck and told me to just leave his house and that I am a whore. I can’t stop crying

Answer

Hi there, 

Thank you for getting in touch with ask Alex about what has happened and what is going on for you. We would be very concerned to hear that anyone has slapped you and called you names. You have the right to feel safe and no one ever has the right to hurt you, physically or emotionally. 

We know you said this happened yesterday but it is important that you talk to someone about this. Do you have a friend or a trusted adult you can talk to? A parent, guardian or aunt or uncle? It is important that you let someone know so they can help keep you safe. It is understandable that you can’t stop crying, this must have been such a scary thing to have happened. 

If you ever feel at immediate risk it is important to call emergency services, these can be contacted at 999 or 112. 

It may also help you to think about how healthy relationships might look and thinking of the current situation you are in. You may find this article helpful:  www.childline.ie/these-are-the-characteristics-of-an-unhealthy-relationship/

It is also important that you know you are not alone. If you are not ready to talk to someone in your life just yet about this Childline is always here for young people. You can use our messaging service on www.Childline.ie, by clicking the purple messaging bubble that appears on the homepage and you can call us on 1800 66 66 66. Both of these services are open 24 hours a day, 365 days of the year and are completely free. We will never tell you what to do, but we will give you the space to chat openly, without any judgment.

We hope you found this helpful, 

Take care, 

Ale

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