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My Bf is Being Abused

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My bf is being abused by his dad… what do I do?? 


Hi, thank you for getting in touch with Ask Pat.  

We are sorry to hear this about your bf. We are really glad that you reached out to us. You asked us what to do as your bf is being abused by his dad. It is important that you have recognised this as all young people have the right to feel safe in their home. 

You are most likely concerned for your bf and worried for his safety and wellbeing. He has the right to feel safe in his home and it is the role of parents and caregivers to protect young people and children. Have you thought about sharing what is happening to your bf with a trusted adult in your life, perhaps a parent, grandparent, aunt/uncle, teacher, or someone you feel comfortable talking to? It is important that you communicate to a trusted adult in your life about these concerns. If not, that is ok, there are other steps you and your bf can take.  

 Túsla is the Child and Family Agency in Ireland who can be contacted when young people need help and support. In Túsla, there are social workers whose job it is to make sure that all people under the age of 18 are safe. You can find your local Túsla office at this link. 

There are some articles on the Childline website which may also help you with the problems you are facing at the moment: 

If you feel that you would like to chat about it more, then Childline is here for you, and we would really love to listen to you. At Childline we are focused on you and what is important to you. The services are free and available 24 hours a day. We do not judge anything you say. You can contact us through our telephone service by calling 1800 66 66 66, through our text service on 50101, or by web chat that you access through the website:   

Thank you again for getting in touch and we hope you found this information helpful, please contact us again if you have any other questions.   

Take care,   


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