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Mum's boyfriend is abusive to me

Your Question

I’m being verbally abused by my mother’s boyfriend, he starts off screaming profanities and calling me fat, stupid, annoying etc. before he starts to get violent towards me, my mother, or his son.


Hi there, and welcome to Ask Alex.
Thank you for sending your question to us. We’re glad you were able to get in touch.
It is very important to note that your mother’s boyfriend does not have the right to do this. We’re truly sorry that you’re experiencing this, and we want to emphasize that it’s not okay for anyone to hurt you. You’re showing great courage by reaching out to Ask Alex. In Ireland, all children have the right to protection and safety, and they should get help if they’re being mistreated in any way.
You have the right to seek help and support in this situation. We’re wondering if you would have another trusted adult that you could speak to about what you’re experiencing. They may be able to help you connect with services that can support you through this ordeal. You have the right to be protected from this behaviour.
If you ever feel unsafe at home or anywhere else, you have the right to call emergency services at 999 or 112. These calls are free and can be made from any mobile or landline.
Additionally, you have the right to contact Túsla, the Child and Family Agency in Ireland. The social workers at Túsla are there for young people under 18 years old, and their role is to ensure that children and young people are safe at home. You can find your local Túsla office here: You might need the support of an adult to reach out to them.
If you would rather speak to someone outside of your family/friends/school, we are always here for you at Childline by clicking on the Live Chat button on this website or giving us a call on 1800 66 66 66. You can talk about anything you want to, and we are here to listen to whatever you would like to say.
Take care of yourself,

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