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Mum is threatening to leave

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My mum and stepdad keep fighting and now mum is threatening to leave. I don’t know what to do.

Answer

Hi there! Thank you for contacting Ask Alex.
 
Firstly, may we say you are brave in reaching out to us. You mention that your mum and stepdad are frequently fighting, with your mum now considering leaving. This must be an incredibly challenging and frightening time for you.
 
We wonder if you have anyone in your life whom you can confide in about what’s happening. Whether it’s a family member, friend, teacher, or a community group, having someone to talk to can provide valuable support and guidance.
 
Regarding what you can do, it’s important to recognise that you are not responsible for your mum and stepdad’s relationship. While it’s natural to want to help, seeking support is ultimately their responsibility. Your focus should be on caring for yourself during this difficult time at home.
 
Do you have a safe place you can go to when things get heated at home, like a friend’s house? Taking time and space away from the situation can provide some relief. Practicing self-care is also important; even simple activities like going for a walk or doing something you enjoy can make a difference. This article from the Childline website may be helpful for you www.childline.ie/what-to-do-if-you-live-with-parents-who-are-constantly-fighting/.
 
If you ever need someone to talk to and aren’t sure where to turn, Childline is here for you. The Team are here to provide a listening ear and support whenever you need it. You can reach us at 1800 66 66 66 or use Live Chat on our website www.childline.ie.
 
Take care of yourself, and know that support is available whenever you need it. Don’t hesitate to get in touch, we can look at some of your options with you.
Alex

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