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Men scare me

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Hello! Im pansexual and afraid of men for some reason. I keep hearing of women getting harmed by men, and getting raped by them. That I became pansexual with a preference of women. A few minutes ago, I was deleting my old YouTube videos, and I saw myself doing a scared face as a joke. This is the part when my brain makes me think of terrible things. I began thinking of myself getting raped, and I began getting scared. My smile quickly faded because, my videos are supposed to be funny! But then I began to think of old men doing things to themselves to my videos. I quickly deleted ALL of them. And whenever I go to stores, I cover my butt because I’m afraid of men looking at me. Why is this happening to me? Is this normal?


Hello, welcome to Ask Alex!
First of all, we want to commend you for sharing your feelings and concerns. It takes courage to open up about these thoughts and fears. It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences and feelings are unique, but you’re not alone in what you’re going through. Your feelings are valid, and it’s okay to have concerns about your safety and well-being.
It’s understandable that you’ve been hearing distressing stories about harm inflicted on women by men. It’s essential to know that not all men are harmful, and there are many supportive and caring individuals out there. However, it’s perfectly okay to be cautious and aware of your surroundings.
If you find that these thoughts and fears are becoming overwhelming, it might be helpful to reach out to professionals who can provide guidance and support. There are several support services available:
Jigsaw: Jigsaw is a youth mental health service with locations across Ireland. They provide support and guidance for young people facing various challenges, including mental health concerns. Here is their website
BeLonG To Youth Services: BeLonG To offers support and resources for LGBTQ+ youth in Ireland. They can provide a safe and inclusive environment for you to connect with others and receive guidance. Here is there website
Childline: You can always contact us here at Childline at freephone 1800 66 66 66 or access our Live Chat at We are confidential, non-judgmental, and open 24/7, offering a safe space to talk about your concerns.
Remember, it’s entirely normal to have concerns about your safety, but reaching out to professionals and support services can help you better understand and manage your fears. You are brave for seeking help and taking steps to address your worries. You don’t have to go through this alone, and there are people who care about your well-being and are ready to assist you on your journey.
Take care of yourself, and reach out soon,

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