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Make me sellfish and rude

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I’m a Girl I’m 14 and just wondering if i like reiciving oral but don’t like giving it would it make me selfish and rude


Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex!
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your thoughts with us. It’s great that you’re seeking guidance, and we’re here to help. First and foremost, your feelings are entirely normal, and it’s ok to have preferences when it comes to intimacy.
It’s important to remember that every person is different and has their own likes and dislikes. This doesn’t make you selfish or rude. Open and honest communication with your partner is crucial. Explain how you feel and listen to their feelings as well. This way, you can both understand each other better and find ways to respect each other’s boundaries.
Additionally, it’s essential to prioritise consent and comfort in any relationship. Never feel pressured to do something that makes you uncomfortable. Setting boundaries is a healthy part of any relationship and shows that you respect yourself and your partner. You may find this article helpful
For more information and support, you can visit They have all the facts about relationships and consent.
Always remember, you are never alone. The Childline team is here to support you and explore your options with you. We are open 24 hours a day, every day. You can contact us for free at 1800 66 66 66, or by Messenger at
Take care and don’t hesitate to reach out if you need more help.
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