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I've got abusive parents

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Hi, I am 16. My parents have become abusive over the past years, mainly my motther (physically and emotionally). They’ve threatened to kick me out before but it was just a threat. I’m coming to terms with it now and they’ve told me it’s real this time. I’m ready to go now and I can ask a friend or family member who is safe. I just want to ask do I need proof of consent that they’re letting me leave home? The websites I’ve looked at say you can only leave at 16 with consent. I’m just afraid they’re gonna turn around and say they never said any of this or done anything. 


Hi there and welcome to Ask Alex,
You’ve explained that your parents, particularly your mother, are treating you abusively—both physically and emotionally. You’ve received threats of being kicked out of the family home and, despite accepting it, you want to know if their consent is needed. There’s a fear that they might deny the threats made.
Firstly, thanks for reaching out. We understand it wasn’t easy, and we’re here to help guide you through different options.
When detailing the abuse, you mentioned your parents being abusive, which raises concern. Have you confided in any other adults, like a trusted family member or teacher? The Gardaí and Túsla step in to keep a child safe when abuse is reported. Despite being 16, you’re still considered a child under the law, entitled to feel safe. Reporting to the Gardaí can be done by calling or visiting the nearest Garda station. For Túsla, you’d need an adult’s support. If lacking a reliable adult, you can contact Childline at 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat on
Regarding leaving the family home at 16, it’s possible but requires your parents’ consent. Leaving without consent might categorise you as homeless or at risk, prompting Túsla to intervene. Learn more at:
We hope this helps. If you need further support, don’t hesitate to contact us again! Wishing for your safety soon.
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