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Is this bullying

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I can’t tell if I’m being bullied or not. I’m autistic and have ADHD, I’ve asked other people and I’m getting mixed answers. The kids in my class ignore me, say rude thing about me and just scream at me sometimes for no reason and stare. Sometimes I think it’s a joke, but apparently it’s not, and when I don’t think it is I’m “misinterpreting”. I don’t feel safe in school anymore and these kids have pushed me to 3 suicide attempts over 6 years (when I moved to the school) there’s only 10 days left, but I came home in tears today. I was told to trust the adults around me with determining if something is bullying, but they beat around the bush. What should I do?

Answer

Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex!
 
First, we want to say how brave you are for reaching out and sharing your experiences. It sounds like you’re going through an incredibly tough time, and it’s important that you know you’re not alone. Many people care about you and want to help, including us here at Childline.
 
From what you’ve described, it does sound like you are experiencing bullying. Bullying can take many forms, including being ignored, called names, screamed at, or stared at in a mean way. If these actions are making you feel unsafe and have led to such distressing feelings, it’s definitely something serious. It’s not right, and you deserve to feel safe and respected at school. This article may be helpful for you, particularly the section on emotional abuse www.childline.ie/what-is-abuse/.
 
It’s really hard when the people around you, especially adults, don’t seem to understand or acknowledge what you’re going through. It might be helpful to talk to someone else, perhaps a different teacher, school counsellor, or another trusted adult outside of school. Sometimes it takes finding the right person who will truly listen and act.
 
In addition to seeking help from trusted adults, you might find it useful to keep a journal. Writing down what happens each day, how it makes you feel, and any responses from adults can help you process your emotions and provide a clear record if you need to show someone what’s been happening. Journaling can be a therapeutic way to manage your feelings and see patterns that might help in addressing the situation.
 
Remember, you are never alone. The Childline team is here for you, to support you and explore your options with you. We understand how difficult this is, and we’re ready to help you figure out the next steps. Whether you need someone to talk to or looking at your options on how to handle the situation, we’re here.
 
You can contact us 24 hours a day, every day, for free. Call us at 1800 66 66 66, or you can reach out by Messenger at www.Childline.ie by clicking on the purple Messenger circle. We’re always here to listen and help you through this.
 
Take care of yourself, and remember that reaching out is a strong and important step. We’re here for you every step of the way.
Alex

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