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I s my mum allowed to hit me

Your Question

Is my mum allowed to hit me? I know this is a similar question to another you have been asked, but mines A little different. I don’t live with my mom anymore because my dad and I moved away but I’d like to know, is she allowed to “whoop” me? Like hit my bum with a belt? She did it all the time if I threw a fit over not being allowed to have fun or being in time out for something. Sometimes a hairbrush instead of belt. And she also poured hot sauce in my mouth sometimes.same with dish soap.

Answer

Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Alex,

You are asking if it ok for your mum to hit you with a belt or hairbrush, and to pour hot sauce or dish soap in your mouth.

We are sorry to hear that you’ve had such difficult experiences. It’s important to acknowledge that everyone deserves to feel safe and cared for in their homes. Physical punishment, especially involving belts or other objects and pouring anything into a young persons mouth, is against the law, it should not happen.  These are not appropriate ways to discipline a child. Here is an article from the Childline website which explains what child abuse is www.childline.ie/what-is-abuse/.

Finding alternatives to physical punishment is so important for maintaining a healthy, non-abusive and respectful relationship. Open communication and establishing clear expectations help everyone know what is expected. When conflicts arise, discussing the reasons behind rules can help teenagers understand their importance. Introducing consequences like loss of privileges or additional chores can be more constructive than physical discipline. There are many positive ways to guide behaviour and nurture understanding within a family. You may find this article helpful, www.childline.ie/how-to-live-with-a-parent-who-has-anger-issues/.

If you’re feeling distressed or need someone to talk to, it’s essential to reach out for support. You’re not alone, and there are people who care about your well-being. Consider sharing your feelings with a trusted adult, maybe your dad, a teacher, or counsellor who can offer guidance and support. If you ever feel unsafe in your mums home, or anywhere else in Ireland, you can phone the Gardaí at 999 or 112.

Additionally, services like Childline are available to provide help and a listening ear. We are open 24/7, and you can contact us at 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat at www.Childline.ie. Remember, you have the right to be treated with respect and kindness, and there are resources available to assist you in navigating difficult situations.

Look after yourself, and know we are ust a phonecall or webchat away for support,

Alex

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