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Is it okay for parents to have loud sex?

Your Question

is it okay for parents to have sex really loudly every night while there are children at home?


Hi there, 

Thank you so much for getting in touch with Ask Alex with your question.

You have asked if it is okay for parents to have sex really loudly every night while children are at home. This is a really good question and we understand why this can be an uncomfortable thing to talk about. 

Sex is a natural thing, and is a sign of happy and healthy relationship between your parents. However, it can be really uncomfortable for children in the home if they are hearing noises from what your parents are doing.

It sounds like your parents might also be keeping you awake at night and this is impacting your sleep. Sleep is so important for our overall wellbeing and you have the right to sleep in your own home. 

Unfortunately this may be an area that you will have to discuss with your parents as they may not be aware of the impact or noise they are making. You could send them a text or write a not if you are not comfortable to say this face to face. You could say something like “Can you please be more quiet at night as the noise you are making is waking me up”

 If you ever want to chat, we are always here to listen at Childline. You are welcome to chat with us through our webchat service by clicking on the purple Messenger circle at Alternatively, our free phone service is 1800 66 66 66. These are both anonymous and confidential services, that provide you with a supportive, non-judgmental, friendly listening ear  anytime you need. 

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