Alex's Answer

Hi there, 

You’re very welcome to Ask Alex and thank you for your question. 

You’re wondering if it’s okay for family members to touch your butt. The short answer to your question is no, nobody has the right to put their hands on you and touch you in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable or that makes you question if the touch is okay. 

We are sorry to hear that this may be happening to you, and it sounds like a difficult situation for you to be in. You have the right to feel safe and comfortable at home. What would it be like for you to talk to your family members about how you are feeling? It is not okay for anyone to touch your body without your permission or in a way that you’re uncomfortable with. 

Is there anyone in your life who you trust that you could speak to about this? We know it’s not always easy to talk to someone, but it sounds like this is something that is on your mind, and you have the right to be listened to about what you are experiencing. Maybe speaking to someone outside of your family who you are comfortable with might work better for you at first? 

It’s important that you know that we are always here for you at Childline. If you would like to speak about this a little more to someone that doesn’t know who you are, we are here for you at Childline 24/7, 365 days a year. We won’t judge you or give out to you, and it is your space to talk about as much or as little as you want. You can get in touch with us in whatever way works for you, through our online chat (www.childline.ie), our text service (50101) or by phone (1800 66 66 66). 

You have been really brave in reaching out to us here at Ask Alex and questioning if what is going on for you is okay. We would love to hear from you anytime you would like to talk. 

Take care, 

Alex