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Is it normal to pretend to want to kill yourself to see who would care?

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Is it normal to be thinking about suicide but not want to do it, perhaps pretend u are going to do it? I pretended that I was going to kill myself to see who would care? Am I normal? I’m 17. 


Hi there, 

Thank you for contacting Ask Alex with your question today. 

You say that you’re thinking about suicide but that you don’t want to do it. It sounds like things might be tough for you at the moment, would that be right? You are not alone in how you are feeling, many of us can feel down at various points in our lives.  While it may be okay to have thoughts around how your life might be different, we would be worried to hear you are having thoughts of suicide. You say that you don’t want to do it. What is life like for you right now?  

You are really brave to reach out with your question, as it’s not always easy to talk about what’s going on in our minds. You have the right to help and support with how you’re feeling right now and it’s important to know that you are not alone. Is there anyone in your life that you feel you can talk to? It could be a friend, a family member or a teacher.  

If you don’t feel comfortable talking to anyone in your own life and you wanted to speak to someone in confidence, Childline is here 24/7 on 1800 66 66 66. If you’d rather not speak over the phone, we also have our chat ( and text services (50101) where there is always someone to listen to you and speak with you about your thoughts and feelings. There are also some articles on the Childline website that you may like to look at and Pieta House is another support service that deals with anyone who is experiencing thoughts of suicide. Their website is here: if you would like to take a look at it, and their telephone number is 1800 247 247 

Thanks again for contacting us here today, you have shown great courage and honesty by getting in touch. Remember, you are not alone, we at Childline are always here to listen and would love to chat with you about what’s going on for you. 

Take care, 


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