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Is it incest if my dad sexually assaults me?

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is it incest if my dad sexually assaults me? (by groping)

Answer

Hi there and welcome to Ask Alex.  

Thank you so much for writing into us. We understand that it can be difficult to reach out and talk about things that might make you uncomfortable.   

You are asking if it is incest if your dad sexually assaults you by groping. In answer to your question, no one has the right to touch in a way that makes you feel uncomfortable or makes you question whether it is sexual assault. There is an article on the Childline website that might help you to understand whether what you have experienced is abuse: www.childline.ie/what-is-abuse 

You have the right to be heard and listened to and to express how you are feeling. I wonder if could you reach out to an adult you trust – be it your mum, an aunt/uncle, grandparent, teacher or coach – to let them know how you are feeling? You have a right to feel safe in your home. If you ever feel that you are in immediate danger, you can contact the emergency services at 999 or 112 – these calls are free of charge from any landline or mobile phone.  

Rape Crisis Centres around the country, provide support to people who have experienced sexual assault and have a 24-hour helpline for information and guidance. Click here to get to their website www.rapecrisishelp.ie/. There are some articles on the Childline website too that you may find helpful www.childline.ie/what-does-inappropriate-sexual-behaviour-look-like/;  www.childline.ie/what-is-sexual-abuse/ 

At Childline, we are focused on you and what is important to you. You can contact our 24-hour listening service through our free phone service; the number is 1800 66 66 66. Alternatively, you can chat with us through our webchat service by clicking on the purple Messenger circle at www.childline.ie. Your conversations with us are confidential and safe, we do not use caller ID nor IP addresses, so your contact is anonymous. 

You have been really brave to let us know what is going on for you.  We hope you have found this information helpful and if you have any more questions, please get in touch.   

Take Care,  

Alex 

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