Alex's Answer

Introducing my boyfriend to mom

Your Question

I am planning to introduce my boyfriend in my graduation, but I am afraid of doing it because of my mom. She told us before that she would let me be in a relationship 2 years after I graduated she meant like 2 years stable in my life. I don’t think I cannot wait that long enough to introduce my boyfriend. We’ve been dating for almost 3 years now. Mg relatives are okay with it, it’s just that my mother I’m terrified of.

Answer

Hi, thanks for getting in touch and asking your question.
 
Ask Alex is a safe space where 18-year-olds and younger, can ask an anonymous question, which will be answered publicly on the Childline website.
 
It sounds like you and your mother might not be seeing eye to eye when it comes to your boyfriend or relationships in general. You have been with your boyfriend for 3 years, but your mother doesn’t know about him? That sounds like it might have been difficult to keep it a secret from her, but it’s great that you now feel ready to introduce him to others in your life.
 
In certain situations, people can get upset when they learn of something unexpected, such as their child being in a relationship. However, it may be possible to have a constructive conversation about this with your mother. You have been in a long relationship and deserve to be happy with a partner of your choosing. You mentioned that other relatives are ok with it, so maybe you can get some help, advice, or a bit of backup from them.
 
Here is a short article about family relationships that you might find useful: www.childline.ie/how-to-manage-family-relationships/.
 
Well done for asking your question and expressing how you feel. If you need to talk more about this, you can also contact Childline 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Chatting is free and confidential. You can talk to us by phone at 1800 66 66 66 or chat with us on our webchat at www.childline.ie by clicking on the purple messenger icon.
 
We hope this is helpful to you and wish you the best in sorting out this situation with your mother,
 
Alex

Ask me a question

You can ask me about anything you want, there’s nothing too big or small.