Info and Advice

Friendship

A friendship is a relationship with a person or a group of people who you have fun with and feel safe with.
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What is friendship?

Friends are people who you enjoy being around and who you trust.

Friendships are different from relationships with your family or your classmates because you choose your friends and they choose you. Sometimes we need someone to have fun with and sometimes we need a friend to support us through a tough time. 

Making new friends

You may have started a new school or joined a new class, sports team or group. When things in our live change, it can be a great opportunity to make new friends. This can sometimes make us feel nervous, excited or both!

Here are some tips for making new friends:

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Ask questions

Ask someone how their day is going, or about their favourite music or movies.

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Listen

Listen to what the other person says and share your thoughts and ideas with them too. 

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Talk

Talk to someone new! If you see someone having lunch by themselves, why not go over to sit with them and start a conversation?

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Choose

Choose people who are nice to you, include you in things and like doing some of the same things you like to do. 

Friends should:

Listen to you when you need to talk 

Include you in what they're doing

Encourage you, respect you and make you feel good

Friends should never:

Put you down or make fun of you

Spread hurtful rumours about you

Put pressure on you or make you feel unsafe

Fitting In

We all want to fit in and feel like we belong. Sometimes, however, it might feel like you have to say or do things that you don't like in order to be part of a group. 

Here are some tips for saying no to anything that you don't feel comfortable with:

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Know what you're willing to do and what you're not ok with
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Use humour to take the pressure or attention off of you
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If you don't feel ok about something, it is ok to say 'no'
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Be direct and say you don't like feeling under pressure
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Talk to a friend or an adult you trust, or talk to Childline
Be Yourself

Remember, good friends won't ask you to do things that make you feel bad. It is important to be yourself and to think about what feels right to you. 

The number of friends you have is not important. What matters most is having friends that you're close to and who support you. Look for people who you enjoy being around and who like you just for being you!

Contact Childline

Childline is always here to listen and to support you. You can call Childline on 1800 66 66 66 (24 hours a day), text Childline on 50101 (10am – 4am every day) or chat with Childline online

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