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I'm jealous of my sister

Your Question

Hello!!!! I am 14 years old girl and I have a bigger sister who is 17 and my parents always tell her how pretty and how beautiful she is! She has the most perfect body and she is the sweetest person ever! I am really jealous of what she has. I don’t why but sometimes I pretend she doesn’t exist. She is wearing the most revealing clothes and everyone is looking at her. When we are all together as a family I feel like I don’t exist!

Answer

Hello, 

Welcome to Ask Alex, thank you for getting in touch with your feelings and thoughts about what is going on for you at the moment. You have said that your are really jealous of your sister and it also sounds like you really look up to her? It can feel hard to have an older sibling who is sweet and beautiful and it may feel like she gets more attention that you which is also hard. It also sounds like this might be tough for you as some times it feels like you don’t exist. 

It is really positive that you have been able to express this and let out these thoughts with us here at Ask Alex. We want you to know that we hear you and and every young person has the right to feel heard, especially with their family. Have you ever spoke to your parents about how you feel? They may not be aware of how the comments they make about your sister impact you as well and can provide you with the reassurance you need. 

It sounds like maybe you’re confidence may feel a bit low when you compare yourself to your sister. It is important to find your own strengths and be proud and comfortable of who you are. You may have different qualities or characteristics of your sister such as sports, art or the friends you have. This is a process and regularly requires ongoing work on yourself! 

We hope you have found this answer helpful but know that you can always talk about this more with us here at Childline. Childline are always here to listen 24 hours a day, 365 days a year to all young people who feel they need someone to talk to. You can always reach out by phone or online chat at any time, and a member of the Childline team will be there to listen in a safe and non-judgemental space, just for you. You can contact through our freephone service by calling 1800 66 66 66 or by web chat that you access through the website www.Childline.ie – you can start a chat by clicking on the purple messenger button on your screen. 

Take Care,  

Alex 

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