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I'm insecure about my skin

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hi alex, im really insecure about my skin and dont know what to do, i have a nice body shape but i have stretch marks and weird bumps, and i also have really dark intimate area since i am a woc, and i am really scared to get intimate with my boyfriend thinking he might be grossed out by how dark my inner thighs and lady parts are. what should i do?

Answer

Hi there! Thanks for trusting us with your question.
 
First of all, let us say that we appreciate you reaching out and sharing your concerns. It takes courage to talk about personal insecurities. It’s important to remember that everyone’s body is unique, and imperfections are a normal part of being human. Your body shape is beautiful just the way it is, and it’s okay to have stretch marks and bumps – many people do, and it doesn’t define your worth or attractiveness.
 
We understand that the fear of intimacy can be overwhelming, and it’s important to communicate openly with your boyfriend about your feelings. Honest conversations build trust and understanding in relationships. Share your thoughts and concerns with him; you might be surprised by his supportive and caring response. Remember, a healthy relationship involves acceptance and appreciation for each other’s individuality. You should never do anything you are not completely comfortable doing. This is a website that has lots of advice around intimacy and consent b4udecide.ie/.
 
As for the darker skin in intimate areas, it’s essential to embrace and celebrate your skin tone. Our bodies come in various shades, and each one is unique and beautiful. If you still feel uneasy, consider talking to a healthcare professional or a dermatologist who can provide guidance and reassurance. Ultimately, self-love is a journey, and learning to appreciate and accept yourself will not only benefit your relationship but also contribute to your overall well-being. Here is an article which may be helpful www.childline.ie/draft-how-to-learn-to-love-the-way-you-look/.
 
Lastly, surround yourself with positive influences and remember that you are not alone in your insecurities. Many teens go through similar experiences, and there is strength in supporting each other. Embrace self-love, be patient with yourself, and focus on the qualities that make you extraordinary. You deserve to feel confident and cherished just as you are.
 

If you would like to reach out and talk to us some more, our Childline Team are here to help and support you too. We do not judge, and we can explore your options with you. You can contact us any time of the day or night, the Childline Listening service never closes, we are here for you 24/7/365. Our free-phone number is 1800 66 66 66 or you can use Live Chat on our website www.childline.ie.

 

Remember, you do not have to go through anything on your own, there are always people who care about you and services to support you. Look after yourself, and get in touch again,  any time, for any reason,

Alex

 

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