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I'm afraid to introduce my boyfriend to my parents

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I’m sorry if this wastes your time but I really want to get it off my chest I have a boyfriend and it’s going to sound silly but I’m thinking of breaking up with him because I’m scared for him to meet my parents cause they are a diffrent language to him and I feel like it would be akward but I met his parents all ready and everything was fine but i don’t know what to do and if I sound stupid saying it.


Hello there and thank you for contacting Ask Alex.  

We know that it can be difficult to open up about how you are feeling, so thank you for reaching out and sharing with us. No question is ever a waste of our time. Each young person and their question are worthwhile to us. 

It is completely understandable to feel nervous or scared about introducing your boyfriend to your parents, especially if they speak a different language. However, it is important to remember that communication is key in any relationship.  

Before making the decision about breaking up with your boyfriend, try talking to him about your concerns. Let him know that you are worried about how your parents will react and that you are feeling a bit apprehensive. He may be able to offer some reassurance or suggest ways to make the introduction easier.  

It is also worth considering whether your fear of your parents’ reaction is based on actual past experiences or simply a fear of the unknown.  Is this the first boyfriend that you have introduced to your parents? Remember that your parents likely want to see you happy and will be supportive of your choices. If this is not the case, you do have the right to get support from elsewhere. Maybe you could talk to a trusted adult who can help to you gain perspective or insight into your feelings and your relationship. Perhaps they could help you talk to your parents also. 

Ultimately, the decision to break up with someone should be based on how you feel about the whole relationship, not just one aspect of it. If you truly care for your boyfriend and enjoy spending time with him, don’t let your fear hold you back.  Trust your feelings and take one step at a time.  

Childline is here for you if you would like to talk or chat to us about your situation. We will not judge you and we can help you look at options that maybe available to you. We are open 24-hours every day, so there is always someone here to talk or chat with you. Our phone number is 1800 66 66 66 and you can reach our chat service at by clicking on the orange Live Chat tab. 

Take care of yourself, we would love to hear from you soon, 


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