Alex's Answer

Hi there, 

You are very welcome to Ask Alex, thank you for trusting us with your question today. You are wondering how to tell your parents that you are pregnant, as you think they will be angry that you and your boyfriend have been having sex. 

We understand the thought of telling your parents must be daunting when you expect they may react in a negative way. We want to say too though, that it is so important you get the support you need with your pregnancy. What is your relationship usually like with your parents? You will know best when a good time might be to speak with them, when there isn’t too much going on and you won’t be interrupted. It might be helpful to think about what you want to say to them first, and to write down what you are feeling and thinking.  

Your parents might need some time to process what you are telling them so you can prepare for that if that is the case and give them space to respond to what you have said. You mentioned thinking they may react angrily to what you are telling them (and they might), so it is important to try and stay calm and wait for them to calm down before continuing the conversation. If you are very nervous about how it could go, maybe there is another family member that you could ask to have present with you, so you feel comfortable and supported. 

We know it must be an incredibly overwhelming time for you right now, but once your parents know, they should be best placed to support you with your pregnancy and be able to explore your options with you.  

There is also a free confidential HSE phone line called My Options, that provides confidential information and counselling to people experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. They may be able to explore with you about consent, confidentiality and how to involve your parents. Their website is www2.hse.ie/services/unplanned-pregnancy/support-services/my-options-freephone/ and their number is 1800 828 010, which is available Monday to Friday 9am to 8pm, and on Saturday from 10am to 2pm. 

We are also always here for you at Childline too, to listen to how you are feeling and to talk through your options and what you might want to say to your parents. You can contact us on our chat service (by clicking on the orange button on the right-hand side of the screen on childline.ie) or over the phone on 1800 66 66 66. 

Thank you again for getting in touch with your question today. Please talk to somebody who can support you without delay. 

Take care of yourself, 

Alex