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I was sexually assaulted by a guy in school

Your Question

Hello, 
I was sexually assaulted from a guy in school and I don’t really know what to do. I still feel his hands and his voice and I am really really hurt and scared. I am really embarrassed. Even my parents are worried about me but no one knows.

Answer

Hi and Welcome to Ask Alex, 

We are very sad to hear that this has happened to you, but thankful for how brave you are for putting it forward and getting some support that you deserve. You have mentioned that you were sexually assaulted by someone in your school. You have stated that you can still feel his hands and his voice, that you are really scared and hurt. That you are embarrassed, and your parents are worried about you, but no one knows what happened to you.  

Firstly we will jump in and say you mentioned being “embarrassed”, you have nothing to be embarrassed about as you did nothing wrong. This should never have happened to you. It must have been very scary for you. No person has the right to lay a hand or any other body part on yours without your consent. Of course, you are hurting and in fear as this person has not been held accountable for his actions. This is a very serious claim and one that should be brought to the attention of not only your parents but the Gardai. You need support in this and the sooner you can bring it to the attention of the authorities the better for the case.  

The idea of bringing that conversation to your parents or any one for that matter is a very daunting and difficult one, but is it worse than letting this horrific event eat away at you while you tackle it alone? Is it worse than the idea of that guy getting the opportunity to do this to another individual? You have already taken the first step by reaching out today and shown great bravery and strength.  

There are services that you can contact to get further support around what has happened and the next steps to take. You can contact the freephone 24-Hour National Helpline at  1800 77 8888, at any time of day or night. They offer a free and confidential listening and support service for anyone who has been raped, sexually assaulted, sexually harassed or sexually abused at any time in their lives. Or you can visit the website for the Dublin Rape Crisis Centre on www.drcc.ie to find the local Centre that is closest to you, some of their services can provide a dedicated Adolescent Clinic which provides counselling for adolescents who have experienced rape, sexual assault, sexual harassment or sexual abuse. It is important that you know you are not alone in this, by the sounds of it you have people around you that worry and want to look out for you, let them help you.  

Sexual assault is a serious crime in Ireland and the perpetrators of it should be held accountable for there actions. You should not be made afraid to speak up and preventing it from continuing. Your voice, Your experience, Your feelings, You are all valid. Keep your strength going and tackle this with support, you are not alone. 

If you feel you would like to speak with our Childline team before hand you can do so. They can be contacted 24hrs a day all year round on freephone 1800 666 666 or via web chat if that is more comfortable for you by pressing the purple circle on the www.childline.ie website. You can run through how you want to approach the subject with your parents or the gardai or just have them listen to how you are. 

Stay strong. 

Alex. 

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