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I want to sort things out with my girlfriend, but I’m grounded

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me and my gf Jay broke up recenently but I use my mam’s phone we cant meet up cuz she lives in America but i was talking to her and we wanna sort things out but im grounded and whenever something tiny happens she pushes it back another day so i cant text jay i feel like im going mental without her im having panic attafcks everyday depressive eppisodes idk what to do 


Hi there and welcome to Ask Alex. 

You say that you and your girlfriend broke up, you’re not able to contact her as you are grounded, and you are finding this difficult.   

It sounds like you are going through a tough time at the moment. It can be very difficult when a relationship ends, and we can experience several different emotions when something like this happens. It’s important that we try and look after ourselves during times like these. You could try to practice some self-care by eating well, sleeping well and trying to do some relaxing activities or hobbies. 

You said that you are grounded and that your mam keeps extending this which is having a negative impact on your mood and impacting your ability to speak with your girlfriend in America. Have you been able to talk to your mum to tell her what’s going on for you? Perhaps you can work something out to bring your being grounded to an end. Speaking to an adult we trust can be really helpful in general and they can often help us come up with solutions for the challenges we are facing. 

We would be worried to hear that you are having panic attacks and depressive episodes. It’s important that we look after our mental health and people of all ages need support with this from time to time. You can read some articles on our website for advice around some coping strategies for when you feel like this. Another useful website is Jigsaw is a mental health organisation that offers support to Ireland’s young people. You are not alone in dealing with these difficulties, there are many groups and organisations out there to help you. 

You could also reach out to chat to us here at Childline. We offer a free, confidential, and non-judgemental listening service and are happy to listen to what’s going on for you. You can contact us by phone on 1800 66 66 66; texting 50101 or contact us online at where you can register to have a chat with us. 

We hope that you find some of this information helpful.   

Take care, 


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