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I want to do fun, normal, child things

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hi i’m just a child and i wanna do like fun normal child things and enjoy my youth and all but i lowkey feel like life has no purpose like my life but also just doing things and stuff feels like unnecessary and i feel bad when my parents spend money on me on my clothes and stuff and when they have to spend money on me in general it’s so bad they usually make me feel guilty about it cuz they just bought a house so money is tight and i really wanna work hard and get a nice job so i can be rich and let them be happy but tbh idk if it’s worth it i feel like nothing has a purpose like how do i combat those thoughts??? i was out with 3 of my other friends today and it felt like an out of body experience and i was just thinking about how i could he doing anything at all at any time and like i hate social concepts they’re so dumb like spending money on dumb expensive stuff i wanna do it like everyone does but like i can’t get over the fact that we all live on a floating rock and nothing matters which is both scary and liberating at the same time and i think i’m scared i’m scared of having to grow up and become an adult and have to face like real world problems like mortgages and taxes and i just want to find love and be happy i want to live a peaceful life but i’m already like really stressed at such a young age as well i’m scared and overwhelmed like so much so to the point where i feel like doing nothing is the best option like i feel like nothing i do will matter and idk maybe i’m just telling myself that because i know i SHOULD be doing something when i’m not and i’m just really damn scared and it’s making me just wanna sink into a big black hole in the ground i think about dying when i shouldn’t i should be grateful my life is so good compared to other people i have everything i need and more so why am i sad? it doesn’t make sense to me. i really truly just wanna be happy and it’s so heartbreaking when people leave ur life and i would love to know how to deal with the fact that everything is temporary like every single thing is temporary and i’m leaving school soon and that is so damn scary i don’t know how to cope with all this. what do you recommend Alex please help me

Answer

Hello, you are very welcome to Ask Alex,

It’s completely natural to have these thoughts and feelings, especially at your age. You’re brave for opening up about them. Many young people go through similar experiences as they transition from childhood to adulthood. It’s important to remember that finding your purpose and dealing with the uncertainty of life are challenges everyone faces.
 
Firstly, consider talking to a trusted adult about your feelings, like a parent, teacher, or school counsellor. They can offer guidance and support tailored to your specific situation.
 
There are several support services you can reach out to which may be of help to you:
 
Jigsaw: Jigsaw is a youth mental health organization with centres across Ireland. They provide support for young people’s mental health and well-being. Visit their website at www.jigsaw.ie to find a centre near you.
 
SpunOut.ie: SpunOut.ie is a youth information website that offers articles and resources on a wide range of topics, including mental health, relationships, and personal development. It’s a great resource for young people looking for information and support. Here is a link to their website spunout.ie
 
And of course, Childline: You can always contact Childline by freephone at 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat at www.childline.ie. We are a confidential, non-judgmental service, and are open 24/7, always here to listen and help you through tough times.
 
Remember, you’re not alone in these feelings, and there are people and organisations ready to help you with this challenging time in your life. It’s okay to seek support and take small steps towards finding your purpose and happiness. You have a bright future ahead, and with the right support, you can overcome these challenges.
 
With our very best wishes, look after yourself,
Alex

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