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I think my Dad is abusive

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My dad I think he is a abusive because when I was young he used to beat my mom even now he does he threaten my mom if she calls the police and it affects us so what do? 


Hi, you are very welcome to Ask Pat. 

Thank you for reaching out to us. You are very brave. You are saying that you think your dad is abusive because when you were younger he used to beat your mom and now he threatens your mom if she calls the police. You also say that it is affecting you.  

We are sorry that your Dad used to beat your Mom when you were younger and that he now threatens your mom if she calls the police. It is understandable that this would affect you and your family. Your Dad does not have the right to be abusive, and he does not have the right to hurt your Mom in any way, physically, mentally, or verbally. No one has the right to hurt you. Your Dad has a responsibility to look after you and care for you. Have you spoken to anyone in your family or another adult you trust about your concerns about your Dad being abusive and how that is making you feel? This adult could be a teacher, neighbour, friend, school counsellor or your GP. You have a right to seek help and support. 

If you are ever feel unsafe at home, or anywhere else, you have the right to call the emergency services at 999 or 112. You can make a call to these numbers for free from any landline or mobile phone.

The ISPCC Childline website also has some information and articles you may find helpful: and 

This is not something you have to go through by yourself. If you feel that you are not ready yet to talk to someone in your own life, you would be very welcome to give us at Childline a call on 1800 66 66 66 or you could text us on 50101 or contact us online for a web chat at  All of our services are open 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, are free, confidential and are a space for you to talk about your thoughts and feelings without being judged in any way.  

Thank you for getting in touch with us, it was great hearing from you. Please know that you can contact us anytime.    

Take care, 


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