Alex's Answer

I struggle with self-harm

Your Question

I’m 13 and struggle with self harm and i physically cannot stay in my house with my parents because my father is narsasistic and my mother is too afraid to Stand up to him is there any way I’d be able to be put into a foster home? 


Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Alex,


You have been very brave to contact us. You tell us that you are 13 and struggle with self-harm, and you physically cannot stay in your house with your parents because your father is a narsasistic and your mother is too afraid to stand up to him; you are wondering if there is any way you’d be able to be put into a foster home.  


We are so sorry to hear you are going through this, it sounds really difficult. We would be very concerned to hear that you struggle with self harm. You have the right to get help and support for what is going on for you. This help and support can come from family members or medical professionals like doctors or counsellors. You never have to be alone while you are going through such difficult times.   


Is there an adult that you would feel comfortable talking to about what is going on for you? Sometimes it can be really helpful to talk to somebody who knows us. This adult could be another family member, neighbour, teacher, or youth worker  Other times, it is easier to talk to somebody who does not know us. 


If you ever feel unsafe at home or anywhere else, remember that you have the right to call emergency services at  999  or  112. These calls are free and can be made from any mobile or landline. Please don’t hesitate to call if you’re in danger. 


Additionally, you have the right to contact Túsla, the Child and Family Agency in Ireland. The social workers at Túsla are there for young people under 18 years old, and their role is to ensure that children and young people are safe at home. You can find your local Túsla office here: You might need the support of an adult to reach out to them. 


Childline is also here to support you, and we’d be happy to chat with you more about what’s going on. You can reach out to us 24/7, and our services are free and confidential. You can call us at 1800 66 66 66, or chat with us one-on-one through Live Chat at We won’t judge you or tell you what to do. We can explore the options available to you together. 


Thank you for reaching out. We want to remind you once again of how brave you are. Take care of yourself, 


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