Alex's Answer
I really miss my dad
Your Question
My mom and dad have been divorced for just 4 years now. I was always a daddy’s girl but since mom and dad separated, I only ever saw my dad once every week. I missed him each week. That turned into once every 2-3 weeks and now I only ever see him once a month. Before I thought that he would want to see me more often in the month but now I’m slowly realising that’s not going to change. I really miss seeing him. How do I stop myself from getting upset from this?
Answer
Hi there and welcome to Ask Alex.
Thank you for contacting us and trusting us with your thoughts.
From what you’ve said, it seems like you and your family have been having a difficult time lately and it’s understandable if this has been tough for you. Thank you for trusting us enough to share this with us, as it can be a difficult thing to do. You mentioned that your parents have been separated for 4 years now and you were always a daddy’s girl. However, only saw your dad once a week since they separated. You also mentioned now you only see him once a month. This must be difficult on you and is understandable that you miss seeing him. It sounds like a lot to have on your mind, so taking the decision to contact Ask Alex was a brave and positive step, as talking can help up cope better with tough situations.
You have the right to get support, and talking about problems can be useful as it can help you feel heard and listened to. Do you have a trusted adult such as a parent, grandparent, aunt or uncle or any adult that you feel comfortable talking to in your life? Here is a link to some useful articles on the Childline website that you might find useful; www.childline.ie/divorce-and-separation/.
Remember, you can always phone Childline on 1800 66 66 66 to talk about what is going on for you if you don’t feel ready to talk to someone in your life quite yet. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Our web chat service through www.childline.ie is also available daily. You can start a chat by clicking on the Orange Tab on the right-hand side of your screen. While we will not tell you what to do, we are here to listen to and support you, and to help you to explore the options that are available to you in your life. We are here to help you in a way that suits you.
Take care of yourself,
Alex