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I need to rest

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Hi Alex , ive been self harming by continuously bashing my head off things like walls with the intent of getting a concussion. It’s gotten addictive and nothing (including therapy) is helping me. It feels scary to say but I really want to end up in a hospital so I can rest.


Hello there, thanks for writing to Ask Alex,

It takes huge courage to reach out and share what you’re going through, and we want you to know that you’re not alone in this. We can only imagine how difficult it must be to feel trapped in a cycle of self-harm, seeking relief in a way that ultimately harms you more. It’s incredibly brave of you to express your feelings and look for help.

We want you to know that we’re very concerned about your well-being. The fact that you’re resorting to such extreme measures to cope is a sign that you’re in a lot of pain. It’s understandable to feel scared, but it’s important to remember that there are healthier ways to cope and get help. Therapy is a vital step, but it’s also crucial to find the right therapist and approach that works for you. Please don’t give up on therapy; sometimes, it takes time to find the right fit. Talking to your GP about your therapist, may be a good place to start.
You wanting to end up in the hospital for rest is a cry for help, and we want to assure you that there are safer alternatives. If you ever feel unsafe at home or in any situation, please reach out to the Gardaí at 999 or 112. Additionally, organisations like, and are here to provide support and guidance for self-harm and mental health. You are never alone in this journey.
Remember, you have options, and there are people who care about you and want to help you through this challenging time. Childline is available 24/7 to provide support and explore those options with you. You can reach us at 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat at You can contact us for any reason at any time for confidential and non-judgmental support.
Please know that you’re valued, and there is hope for healing and recovery.
Take care of yourself, and please reach out whenever you need someone to talk to. You are stronger than you realise, 

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