Alex's Answer

I need to be in control of some area of my life

Your Question

What does it mean like let’s say for example u struggle with sh and are losing control and u feel the need to have control so u put control onto something else like eating? Does this make sence


Hey there, you are very welcome to Ask Alex,

Firstly, we want to commend you for reaching out and sharing what you’re going through. It takes a lot of courage to talk about struggles, especially ones as complex as feeling out of control and seeking solace in something like eating. What you’re describing is a common experience for many people, especially teenagers who are going through a lot of changes and pressures.

It sounds like you’re dealing with a lot right now, and it’s completely understandable to want to regain a sense of control when things feel overwhelming. Sometimes, when we’re struggling with one thing, like self-harm (SH), we may try to cope by turning to something else that gives us a sense of control, like eating. This can feel like a way to manage the chaos we’re feeling inside.

But it’s important to know that while these coping mechanisms might provide temporary relief, they’re not sustainable long-term solutions. It’s okay to look and ask for help and support, and you don’t have to go through this alone. Organisations like offer support specifically for those struggling with eating-related issues, and Pieta House provides support for those dealing with self-harm. There are also some articles on the Childline website that may give you some guidance and

Remember, you deserve support and understanding, and there are people who want to help. If you ever need someone to talk to, you can always reach out to us at Childline. We’re here 24/7, ready to listen without judgment, and everything you share with us is completely confidential. You can call us at 1800 66 66 66 or chat with us online at, just click on the Live Chat tab to begin a chat. No matter what you’re going through, we’re here for you, any time, any reason.

Take care of yourself, and know that brighter days are ahead once you get the support you are entitled to,


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