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I hate being female

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I hate being a woman. Boys can enjoy things, especially sexuality without being judged. It’s way more stigmatized with girls. We can’t talk too much about sex or masturbation because that makes us whores or slutty. But we can’t not want to have sex or be sexualised because the we are boring and too proud. Fuck this


Hi there and welcome to Ask Alex,  
Thank you for sharing how you are feeling with us. We are really sorry to hear that you’re feeling this way, but it’s essential to remember that your gender doesn’t define your worth or your abilities. It’s okay to have frustrations about societal expectations and double standards. We have outlined some tips below.  
Firstly, consider finding a safe space where you can express your feelings and thoughts without fear of judgment. Talking to a trusted friend, family member, or therapist can provide you with an outlet to discuss your concerns openly and receive support. 
Secondly, challenge the stereotypes that bother you. Remember that societal norms and expectations can be unfair and limiting. By being true to yourself and pursuing your interests and passions regardless of gender expectations, you can break free from these constraints. 
Thirdly, educate yourself about feminism, gender equality, and women’s rights. Understanding the roots of these societal norms and inequalities can empower you. This knowledge can help you navigate these challenges and advocate for change. 
Surrounding yourself with positive influences is another important step. Building a strong support network of friends and allies who uplift and support you can help you feel more confident and secure in your identity. 
Engaging in self-care is equally vital. Take care of your mental and emotional well-being by participating in activities that make you feel good about yourself, whether it’s pursuing hobbies, engaging in exercise, or practicing relaxation techniques. 
Lastly, if you feel passionate about addressing these issues on a broader scale, consider getting involved in organisations or groups that work towards gender equality and breaking down harmful stereotypes. Your voice and actions can contribute to positive change in your community. 
Remember that you are not alone in feeling this way, and many people have faced similar challenges. It’s okay to seek help and support when dealing with these complex emotions and societal pressures. Your feelings are valid, and with the right support, you can work towards finding peace and acceptance within yourself. 
If you feel you would like to talk to an adult but you are not sure who to ask or where to begin, know that Childline is here for you to listen and to support you. Childline can be contacted through the free phone number 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat on our website   
We hope this helps! 
Wishing you all the best in this journey,  


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