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I get given out to a lot

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My mum and dad give out to me alot for everything and tell me I’m useless and stuff and really has been affecting how I feel about myself and my mood….its been like this for the last few 2 years since my sister died… of cancer .. and they would compare me to her in everyday. It feels like abuse but they don’t hit me or like sexualise me. Just wondering how I should deal with this. Thank you

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Hi there, you are really welcome to Ask Alex,
 
We are really sorry to hear that you’ve been going through such a difficult and emotionally challenging time. It’s completely understandable that you’re feeling hurt by the way your parents have been treating you, especially after the loss of your sister. Grief can affect people in different ways, and sometimes parents may not handle it well, which can lead to unintentional emotional harm.
 
First and foremost, we want you to know that you are not alone in this. Many people face challenging family dynamics, and it’s important to reach out for support and guidance. It’s important to recognise that what you’re going through could be considered emotional abuse, even if it doesn’t involve physical or sexual harm. Your feelings are valid, and it’s crucial to take care of your mental and emotional well-being. This article from the Childline website may be helpful for you www.childline.ie/what-is-abuse/.
 
Consider talking to a trusted adult, such as a teacher, school counsellor, or another family member, about your situation. They may be able to provide you with the support and guidance you need. You could also reach out to a therapist or counsellor who can help you process your emotions and develop coping strategies to deal with the situation at home. Here is another article from the Childline website which is about managing family relationships www.childline.ie/how-to-manage-family-relationships/.
 
Remember, you have the right to be treated with love and respect. If you ever feel unsafe or need immediate assistance, don’t hesitate to contact the Gardaí at 999 or 112. Your well-being is important, and there are people and resources available to help you through these challenging times.
 
If you would like to talk some more about what is going on for you in your home anonymously, the Childline Team are waiting for you to get in touch. You can freephone us at 1800 66 66 66; you phone ID is blocked so we cannot see your phone number. You can also contact us through Live Chat on the Childline website; your IP address is also blocked, so know that unless you choose to give us identifying information, we have no idea who or where you are.
 
Please remember,  you are never alone, and there is hope for a better future. Take care of yourself,
Alex

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