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I feel uncomfortable around my uncle

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My uncle has a past of being a creep towards a little girl in the family he’s made weird remarks, cursed her out , even choked her…. But let me say this was years ago and now my uncle has changed and been with me and my family for sometime now and keeps calling me Princess / my queen … I feel very uncomfortable with that and I just want to know if I’m overthinking

Answer

Hi there,
 
Welcome to Ask Alex. We are very glad you’ve reached out and asked about your uncle. It is a very brave step to admit how you feel, so well done.
 
We are concerned to hear that your uncle has previously choked a young member of your family. That is illegal in Ireland and is considered child abuse. Young people have the right to report any concerns of abuse to Social Workers or to the Gardaí. Túsla is the Child and Family Agency in Ireland. The social workers within Túsla are there for young people under the age of 18, and their job is to keep children and young people safe at home. You can find your local Túsla office here: www.tusla.ie/get-in-touch/local-area-offices/ if you would like to get in touch with them or get information.
 
While people have the capacity for change, and your uncle may be different now, it is important to listen to your gut instinct. It is an important safety mechanism in our bodies which helps us keep safe. You have the right to feel cared for and safe in your environment. Do you have a trusted adult to talk to about this? Maybe another family member or a teacher? It’s important that you feel listened to and cared for.
 
If you ever feel unsafe around your uncle, or if he hurts you or threatens you, you should contact the emergency services on 999 or 112. You may find this article helpful www.childline.ie/what-is-abuse/.
 
Remember, our Childline Listening service is here for you 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. You can talk to us around how you are feeling about your uncle, how you may talk to a trusted adult, or anything else that is on your mind. You can call us on 1800 66 66 66 or reach out through Live Chat at www.Childline.ie. Our services are non-judgmental and confidential. We are always here to listen.
 
Take care of yourself, and know that we are here for you whenever you want to reach out,
Alex
 

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