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I feel judged by other people

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I feel like I don’t want to live any more not if it’s Gonna fell like this I feel judged by other people and I feel ugly and that nobody wants me or needs me in their lives and that their better off without me and that I’m everyone’s last choice always and never the first 

Answer

Hi there, welcome to Ask Alex.

Thank you so much for getting in touch with us. We know it can be such a hard step to take to reach out and you have been very brave to do so.  

 

It sounds like there is a lot going on for you at the moment and that you are having a lot of really big thoughts. You have said that you feel like you don’t want to live any more and that you feel judged and ugly and that nobody wants or you. You have also said that you feel that others are better off without you and that you are everyone’s last choice and never their first. We wonder has something in particular happened that has made you feel this way or maybe there have been a few things?

It would be really good to talk to someone in your life if there is something that has happened that has these thoughts coming up for you. Maybe a teacher, a parent, a sibling or a friend? You have the right to be heard and supported and we know this can also be a hard step to take.  

 

It sounds like you are having a lot of negative thoughts about yourself, it’s important to be able to recognize these as just that. Thoughts. Sometimes we can get into the habit of thinking about things in a negative way and it can help to come up with ways of noticing these thoughts and challenging them. Try thinking of examples where these thoughts weren’t true or challenge yourself more to think why do I think this is true for me? This is really hard to do but you have taken a great step so far!  

 

We think it may be good for you take get some additional support with how you are feeling. There are lots of support services available which you may find helpful. These include www.pieta.ie; www.jigsaw.ie and www.yourmentalhealth.ie. 

 

Maybe you don’t feel ready to talk to someone you know just yet and that’s okay. If you want to talk about this any further you can always call the Childline Team at 1800 66 66 66 or reach out through Live Chat at www.Childline.ie. Our services are non-judgmental and confidential. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.   

 

Look after yourself, and please remember, you are not alone, we are here for you,

Alex  

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