It’s totally okay to feel the way you do, and we are here to help you through this situation. We understand that living at home can be challenging, especially when you’re feeling isolated or pressured.
You are telling us that you’re 14 years old, and you’re not happy living at home because your father’s wife seems to be creating a difficult environment for you. It sounds like she’s isolating you from your family and making you do things like getting baptized and attending mass, which you’re not comfortable with. It’s great that you find happiness when you’re away from home, like at your grandma’s house.
First and foremost, we want you to know it’s completely normal to want a safe and supportive home environment. You’re not alone in feeling this way, and it’s important to reach out for support. We would strongly recommend talking to a trusted adult about your situation, someone who can listen to you and help you find solutions. Sometimes, sharing your feelings with someone you’re close to can provide emotional support and practical advice.
Some of these options may also be of help to you:
Stay Calm: It’s important to stay as calm as possible, even when things are tough. Take deep breaths when you’re feeling overwhelmed, and remember that your feelings are valid.
Communication: Try to have an open and honest conversation with your father about how you’re feeling. It might be difficult, but it’s a crucial step in addressing the issues. Perhaps your trusted adult could be with you at this time.
Set Boundaries: Politely express your boundaries. Let your father and his wife know what you are and aren’t comfortable with. This can help establish some clarity in your household.
Find Safe Spaces: Continue spending time at your grandma’s house or other places where you feel safe and happy. These moments can be essential for your well-being.
Self-Care: Prioritise self-care. Make sure you’re getting enough sleep, eating well, and engaging in physical activity. These habits can help you manage stress.
Keep a Journal: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be a therapeutic way to process what you’re going through. It can also help you track changes over time.
If you ever feel like you can’t talk to someone you know just yet, remember that you can always call the Childline Team at 1800 66 66 66
or reach out through Live Chat
. These services are open 24/7, non-judgmental and confidential. You’re never
alone, and we are here to support you and explore your options with you.
Stay strong, and know that there are people who care about you and your well-being.