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I don’t know if I’m lesbian or not

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I don’t know if I’m lesbian or not. I like women and feminine non-binary people, I’m attracted to men but I don’t want to date a man, and I probably won’t be in a relationship with one. Im not sure 


Welcome to Ask Alex and thanks for reaching out.  

It sounds like this is a time in your life that you are reflecting on and exploring the various aspects of your sexuality and identity. Having questions regarding sexuality and what that means in relation to identity is very common and normal, particularly during our teenage years and early adulthood.  

This can be an exciting time but it may also feel confusing and even make us a little bit anxious or worried. It can also be difficult if who we are interested in romantically is different from who our friends show romantic interest in. Remember, different does not mean bad or wrong.  

It is important to remember every person has the right to ask these questions and explore what feels right for them in a safe way. Have you ever visited the following websites, or They are for organisations that support LGBTQI+ youth. There are lots of articles on these websites which may be helpful to you in clarifying your identity.  

Don’t forget, you can always contact Childline on 1800 66 66 66 to talk about what is going on for you. We are here 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Our free text service is available at 50101 and you can contact our webchat service through While we do not tell you what do here at Childline, we are here to listen to and to support you. We can help you to explore the options that are available to you in your life, to help you in a way that suits you best.  

Take care,  


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