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I cant tell my dad where I am going

Your Question

i cant tell my dad where am going whenever i leave home simply because i fear how he will judge me wrongly 

Answer

Hi there, 

You’re really welcome to Ask Alex, and thank you for sharing what’s going on in your life today.  

You say that you don’t feel like you can tell your dad where you’re going when you leave the house and you are afraid he will judge you. We’re sorry to hear that you fear your dad’s reaction. 

How would you and your dad usually get on? Family relationships can have lots of ups and downs, and sometimes it can be hard to understand a parent’s point of view. They can have different views and opinions which might seem a million miles away from our own viewpoint. Even if we have a difference of opinion, we hope you know you have the right to feel safe in your home and deserve to be treated with kindness and respect by all your family members, and for them to care about your safety. 

What makes you think that your dad would judge you or is this something that has happened before? Sometimes we can fear people’s reactions or believe they will react in a particular way which doesn’t turn out to be true. 

What do you think it would be like if you did share with him where you were going? Perhaps you could have a think about the pros and cons of sharing with your dad where you are going. It sounds like maybe you would like to tell him, but you just aren’t sure about his reaction. Do you think he might be concerned about your safety when you leave the house and would like to know where you’re going? 

If you would like to talk about this some more, and maybe tell us a little bit more about the situation, we would love to hear from you. You can contact us on our chat service (click on the purple messenger circle at www.childline.ie) or on the phone (our number is 1800 66 66 66). We’re not going to judge anything you say, and you can share as much or as little as you want, but we can talk through what your options might be, and what you’d like to do next. 

Thanks so much for contacting us. 

Take care, 

Alex 

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