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I am worried about my friends

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Hi Alex, I’m really worried about my friends but they won’t listen because I’m younger than them. Recently my friends have kept disregarding me when I try to help them medically/mentally. My friend recently got a binder to help with gender dysphoria because he is trans, however he never got it fitted and doesn’t care because “I wouldn’t understand and am too small and dumb to even know what it it” when really I’m quite worried because I don’t want him to get hurt or cause harm to himself, he refuses to listen when I try to talk to him about it, what do I do?


Welcome to Ask Alex,

It takes a lot of bravery to stand up for your friends, especially when they’re facing challenging situations. You’re showing incredible courage by wanting to help your friend who is dealing with gender dysphoria. It’s important to remember that age doesn’t always determine wisdom or understanding, and your concern comes from a place of caring and empathy.
Firstly, know that you’re not alone in this. Many young people like you face situations where their friends might not listen. Here are three support services that you can reach out to for guidance:
1. **BeLonG To Youth Services**: BeLonG To is an organization in Ireland that supports LGBTQ+ young people. They provide a range of services, including counselling and support groups, to help young people navigate issues related to gender identity, sexual orientation, and mental health. You can visit their website at for more information.
2. ****: is a youth information website in Ireland that covers a wide range of topics, including mental health, relationships, and LGBTQ+ issues. They offer articles, advice, and a helpline where young people can ask questions and seek guidance. Visit for more details.
3. **Pieta House**: Pieta House specializes in providing support for people experiencing self-harm or suicidal thoughts. They have professional therapists and counselors who can offer assistance. While they primarily focus on suicide prevention, they can provide guidance on a variety of mental health concerns. Visit for more information
Now, in dealing with your friend’s situation, it’s important to approach them with empathy and understanding. Let them know that you care about their well-being and that your intentions are to support, not judge. Try to have an open and honest conversation, and if they still resist, respect their boundaries, but also express your concern about their safety.
Remember, you can always contact us at Childline too, a confidential and non-judgmental helpline at 1800 66 66 66 or you may prefer to reach out through Live Chat at We are available 24/7 and can help you explore how to navigate this challenging situation.
You’re doing your best to be a supportive friend, and that’s truly commendable. Stay strong, and continue to show kindness and empathy to those around you.
Look after yourself,


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