Alex's Answer

I am scared that my parents will find out that I self harm

Your Question

I am scared that my parents are soon going to find out that I’m suicidal and that I self-harm. What am I even supposed to do in this situation?


Hi there, you are very welcome to Ask Alex.  

Thank you for reaching out to us. We understand that it’s not always easy to share how we’re feeling, but we also know how important it is to talk about our worries.  

You have said that you are scared that your parents might soon find out about your self-harming and suicidal thoughts, and you are wondering what you should do in this situation. Firstly, we would like to say how brave you are in being honest and open about how you feel as we know how tough it can be for young people to share their experiences. 

We are concerned to hear you are that you are suicidal and that you are self-harming. Intentionally hurting yourself is one way to express difficult emotions. Self-harming and thinking about suicide might be your way of releasing pent-up feelings of distress or anger. It may be the only way you know how to cope, but there are other methods of coping. You have the right to be alive and you have the right to feel safe and happy. You also have the right to seek help and support about how you are feeling and the thoughts you are experiencing. It is important for your own mental wellbeing that you get this help and support. There are lots of support services available which you may find helpful. These include;; and There are also some articles on the Childline website that you may like to look at,, and 

Sharing our feelings with the people in our lives can be a difficult thing to do sometimes because we are never sure about how the other person will respond, what they will think or what they will say to us. However, carrying the weight of our problems alone and not sharing them with others can be more harmful to our wellbeing than letting them out and telling someone what we are thinking and feeling. What do you think it would be like to share with your parents how you have been feeling before they find out some other way? It is normal to worry about your parent’s reaction or judgement to what you’re going through, but it’s very likely that they’ll simply want to help. 

If you feel like you are not ready to chat to them about it, is there another trusted adult that you feel you could confide in? This could be a friend or relative.  If you are nervous about starting the conversation it might be helpful to write it down on paper or even practice the conversation in the mirror. Writing things down in itself is a little release and can help lighten the load.  

Remember, you deserve to be listened to and to have your feelings heard. Your feelings are valid, and you are not alone. If you feel that you are not ready yet to talk to someone you know, you are very welcome to chat with the Childline Team by phone on 1800 66 66 66 or through our web chat on Childline services are free and confidential, and are available 24 hours, 7 days a week.   

Thank you for reaching out to us.  

Take care,    


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