If you think a loved one or friend is self-harming, remember that they might be feeling a deep sense of shame or guilt, or may be confused and worried about the behaviour.
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It’s important to approach them with care and understanding. Here are a few things you can do to help:
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- Try not to panic. Someone who self-harms might have been doing this for a long time even though you have not been aware of it.
- Stay calm and respond with care and concern.
- Listen to what the person is saying and be aware that they are in distress and need support.
- If there is an immediate injury or substance ingested that requires medical attention it would be helpful if you could accompany the person to A&E and offer them support while they are being treated.
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It is important for everyone to remember that anyone seeking help is entitled to the same level of respect, empathy and care regardless of how their injuries have been caused.Â
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If you have been self-harming and feel now is the time to talk to someone about it, then it might help to consider some of the following points:Â Â
- Focus on the feelings or situations that lead to you self-harming rather than the act itself. This can help the person you’ve asked for support to understand your thoughts and perspective more clearly. Don't worry if you can't pinpoint these straight away.
- Expressing these feelings might make you nervous so find a way that works for you. This might be to write a letter or email but it’s important to follow up and speak face-to-face with the person you have chosen.
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Be mindful that when you tell someone you have been hurting yourself, they may react initially with shock, fear or even anger but all these reactions stem from a concern for you. Give the person time to respond positively and to support you.
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Here are some helpful support services and organisations available for people to contact in relation to self-harm concerns:
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Pieta House: Tel 01 6010000 www.pieta.ie –Â Â Pieta house offers free, specialist therapeutic support for those who self-injure or who are at risk of suicide.Â
Childline: Tel 1800 666 666 – Childline is a free and confidential support for children and young people by telephone and online. Open 24 hours a day 365 days a year and via the Live Chat button on www.childline.ie Â
Samaritans: Tel 1850 60 90 60 – Samaritans Ireland provides 24-hour emotional support to anyone struggling to cope.Â
Grow: Tel, 1890 474 474 Â www.grow.ie –Â A mental health organisation which helps people who have or are suffering from mental health problemsÂ
Parentline: Tel, 1890 927 277 www.parentline.ie – A confidential helpline for parents open Monday – Thursday 10am to 9.30pm and Friday 10am to 4.30pmÂ
Yourmentalhealth.ie – AÂ website that aims to improve awareness and understanding of mental health and well-being in Ireland.Â
