Alex's Answer

Hi there and welcome to Ask Alex,  

You are asking us how to get revenge on a toxic bully. If you have been bullied, we are very sorry that you have experienced this. Bullying is never okay, and you have the right to feel safe and respected at all times. It’s important to remember that it’s not your fault that you are being bullied. Bullying can happen to anyone at any age. It can happen in a variety of places – in school, on the way to and from school, in your neighbourhood, at home, or through your phone. 

It sounds like you are angry at the bully and want justice or ‘revenge’ for how you’ve been treated. It is natural and normal to experience a range of emotions, such as sadness, fear, and/or anger at the situation. It is only right that the bully receives consequences for their actions and that the bullying stops. However, it is better to be assertive rather than aggressive, and not stoop to the level of acting like a bully yourself in order to get revenge. The Childline website has many articles on bulling, which you can find here: www.childline.ie/bullying-abuse-safety-and-your-rights/   

Rather than trying to solve the problem yourself, we would encourage you to report the bullying to an adult that you trust, so that it can be dealt with appropriately. A trusted adult may be a parent/guardian, aunt/uncle, teacher or family friend. You are not alone, and there is support available to you.  

Childline are always here to listen too, and you can talk about whatever you want with us. Childline is a free, confidential and non-judgemental service. You can contact us by phone on 1800 66 66 66 or online chat at www.childline.ie/, just click on the orange Live Chat button of the right–hand side of the page.  

If you are aware of someone else being bullied or have witnessed bullying, you have a key role in stopping the behaviour by reporting it to a trusted adult. You can learn more about what you can do by following this link: www.ispcc.ie/bullying-and-the-role-of-the-bystander/.   

We hope this helps you.   

Take care of yourself, we would like to hear from you soon. 

Alex