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How do I tell someone I'm struggling

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How do I tell my mom I’m struggling without her getting mad?


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It’s really brave of you to want to talk to your mom about your struggles. Remember, it is your parent’s job to care about you, and sharing your feelings is an important step. You might start by choosing a calm and quiet moment to talk, when she’s not too busy or stressed. This can help create a comfortable atmosphere for your conversation.
When you approach her, try to use “I” statements to express your feelings. For example, say something like, “I’ve been feeling really overwhelmed lately, and I could use some support.” This can help her understand that it’s about your feelings and not about blaming her.
Know that it’s okay to ask for help, and you’re not alone in facing challenges. Your bravery in opening up to your mom is a positive step, and there are support services like Childline that are ready to assist you whenever you need it.
Childline is a confidential and non-judgmental service available 24/7. You can contact us by freephone at 1800 66 66 66 or through Live Chat at We are always here to listen and help you when you need someone to talk to. You can talk to us about anything at all that is on your mind, big or small. You may even like to practice with us what you could say to your mom. 
Look after yourself and please reach out to us or someone else you trust, soon.

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